are unplanned and people react and start to worry that maybe they are
living a lifestyle which is not quite suitable for pregnancy like drinking
alchohol or maybe smoking or eating the wrong diet or that they may cause harm
to their baby without intention.
we approached planning a pregnancy as so particular as buying a new car or
house then we would invest alot of time, energy and research in the preparation.
The ideal would be the longer the preparation the better but at least a minimum
of three months preparation would be advisable.
first to understand, then to be understood’- Stephen & Cory
This statement is all about listening to each other
effectively so needs are met on either side. This can be established between
parent and child even before the child has been born, and for either parent
even if it is the mother who is carrying the baby in utero for nine months, the
role of the father is as important in listening to the baby’s needs as well as
Some people may seem to be more tuned into their
unborn baby and its not because they are any different to anyone else but have
become more open and conscious to listening to their child both in the physical
and non physical sense.
“Being touched and caressed, being massaged, is food for the infant: food as necessary as minerals, vitamins and proteins” – Dr Frederick Leboyer
Touch is the first sense that a baby develops in utero and it is used instinctively from when they are born into the world. It is part of them and it is the best way for them to learn about themselves, the world and their place in it, through the messages they receive through their skin. It can range from a natural reflex like rooting for their fist or feeling and smelling for their food source (for example the nipple of a breast or teat of a bottle) to grabbing whatever they can reach out to.
idea of a fourth trimester is being discussed a lot more in the last few years
with parents becoming more informed about pregnancy, birth and parenting.
Therefore, the birth professionals are starting to realise that the time period
from birth to three months is so important for both baby and mother, as well as
for fathers as they experience this journey together.
people are aware of the three trimesters of pregnancy, where baby grows and
develops from a fetus to a healthy term infant born somewhere between 37 weeks
and 42 weeks gestation period.